DATING, a mans= view

It IS compassion, Athe existence of SOMETHING TO SHARE@, that initiates the desire among men and women to seek each other out. TRUTH suggests, Emotion turns desire into a Aneed@. Reality says, an examination of the single word ANEED@: reveals the cause of LONELINESS among those who are desperate for Amarriage@.

The question exists: what drives the Aneed@?

Emotion: the playing of Agames@, to initiate, direct, or produce a Response, in someone else; REQUIRES Aan actor@, pretending Aon stage@, and expects an applause. Meaning IF, a response occurs that ALLOWS a continuation of the events, THEN, Athe show@ continues until one actor or the other, says enough! It is here that desperation (explained as a need) occurs: Simply, Athis is NOT the ending I chose@. For those who must begin again, with someone else, it means (TO BE EMOTIONAL) that a Alarge portion@ of their mental peacefulness, will be tampered with again! Therefore these people become, depressed, aloof, Adrunks@, Etc!

The lesson to be learned: It is NOT necessary to be emotional! Instead BE YOURSELF, after the games are played, Aeveryone goes home anyway@.

Existence: The KNOWLEDGE, that AI@ AM growing older, that options in behavior are changing, that AI@ WILL DIE@; initiate a series of Afinal preparations@ INTENDED, although usually UNSUCCESSFUL, methods to insure, AI GOT my share@, as best I could. TRUTH says, it IS now or never! This SIMPLE FACT, Requires: AI must choose, I must ACCEPT my position or I must change it, I Must Define My LIFE!

The Lesson: Reality IS (on a personal level) the outcome of your own wants & needs & desires, within the environment of your own choices. Those who face Atheir own truths@, realize this, those who do Not, BLAME someone else. LIFE is a Relationship to truth, those who are TRUE to themselves, find HAPPINESS, as the Result of FREEDOM (I chose), and RESPONSIBILITY (I DID, my best).

SHARING: the Blessing of a GENTLE PURPOSE! It IS here, the very first Asounds of LOVE are heard@. Truth Says: LOVE AND SHARING, Awalk together, hand in hand@. Sharing between the sexes realizes, WE are , FREE to expand Our lives by expression and experience through love!@ Sharing IS then, NOT a taking, But rather, Athe Reality of an expression, paid for, with the heart!@

LET ME BE FREE; there can be No chains, No reins, No plotting, & No Ashopping (we are not items to purchase)@.

BE AT PEACE WITH ME; when it IS time, allow me the opportunity to Seek, Without the terms called Asuccess or failure@, Because, as the years go by OUR Happiness Does Depend upon the fundamental words: AI HAD my chance@.

BE HAPPY; Those who do want Amarriage@ KNOW, Athis person will ask and expect@! Reality says: HOW they treat themselves and ALL other life forms, WILL BE, a sign and seal of how AI@ shall be treated.

What=s wrong: The experience of men and women is a description of MANY Realities, interwoven Alike a fabric@, the men coming from one direction, the women coming from the intersecting direction. The descriptions being: As a man, the substantial experiences, that describe AI NEED@ are; to appreciate LIFE through a new and different outlook (person); to design an expression of HAPPINESS beyond SIMPLE games; to transform Athe moments@ of life (at times) into the experience of DISCOVERIES; to explain the difference between AI am & I wish to be & WHY@; to hear the Afeelings@ that exist in all humanity.

As a man, the substantial expressions, AI would ask to hear@ ARE: Be Truthful, and tell me IF friendship is enough; Be Truthful, and explain why, AI am chosen@; Be Truthful, and describe the Journey you desire, that I too may understand; Be Truthful, and EXAMINE your friendship to ME, that there may be NO sudden betrayals; ALWAYS tell me the TRUTH, otherwise Awalls and barriers@ SHALL be built!

The descriptions of Woman, through a man=s eyes: Those being:

As a Woman, the substantial experiences, that determine AI NEED@ ARE: to determine life in relation to a new & different person; to participate in the definition of HAPPINESS through Arole playing@; to appreciate Athe moments of life@, as the treasuries, to be held as precious; to announce AI have needs, I have wants, I have a RIGHT to these things@; to EXPRESS the Afeelings@, that make US ALL human.

As a Woman, the substantial expressions, ARE: Be Important TO ME, and show ME More than just friendship; Be Important to ME, and Make ME feel Beautiful; Be Important to ME, and tell me, Ato belong to you SHALL BE, my dreams come true@; Be Important to ME, and confess Nothing, could ever come between US; ALWAYS tell ME, that Your LOVE Shall be enough!

Reality Says: These differences ALTER Athe Living@ Into OUR LIVES!

The Acceptance of Truth, the Acceptance of ALOVE IS the gentle appreciation of a LIFE, that CAN NOT be replaced@: Returns the experiences of dating and marriage to; HAPPINESS means, Atwo together as ONE@.

The Definition of Romance, Ato share My Heart@, applies to each Male/Female bond

. The Reality of Aa bond@ Simply put: You cannot leave UNLESS, you Damage or Destroy, Athe door@, that all potential romance must enter through. Meaning, to damage is; Ato apply a cost to every relationship@; The destruction is; Ato remove what was precious to me, and give nothing in return@.

Understand This; Sexuality is a Alittle thing@, yet it is often the precursor for opening Athe door@, BE CAREFUL, who you damage or destroy, and of the people YOU allow this position, in your life.

Wisdom says: Do NOT give your days/your life, for a simple behavioral experience; RATHER carefully define, Athe experience@ of Our Lives, WILL be governed by AHONOR, LOVE, & REALITY@.

Honor is: (in this instance) AI@ Will NOT ever leave Ayou@ in trouble or alone, Because, AYou and I@ CHOSE each other.

LOVE IS: AMy Heart & Soul@ yearn to make HAPPINESS, the place inside, Our Lives!